Gender

 All of a sudden I found myself thinking sociologically when I was eating out with my aunt. She was asking my other aunt on her opinion to sending my four year old cousin to a private school because she was unsure because she didn't know if it would be better.  My four year old cousin hangs out mostly with my boy cousins and one girl cousin but she is already ten so theres a huge age difference and there is so much that both can do together.  My aunts answer was to sign her up for private school because she said that that way she would not become a tomboy and that they would teach her to sit properly and behave like a "young lady".  My aunt thought i went to a private school because when I used to live in Chicago like 6 years ago i would wear the usual white shirt and jeans or navy dress pants/skirt and my class would be in a church.  She used me as an example but i told her the reason for the uniform was that all Chicago public schools have to have the same uniform and the reason my class was in a church building was because the church was nice enough to let my school use that building and that is the reason why a school was built in front of the church. I told them both to just let her do what she wants I mean to me my four year old cousin seems pretty girly but to them shes not. This reminded me of the PowerPoint we saw in class comparing the boy and girl toys and how society tries to make us all perfect and they are the ones responsible for all the stereotypes in our society. 

Gender Roles

Before learning about gender socialization I did come to realize that while my mom was working my dad would sometimes be home and he would be the one cooking and cleaning in the kitchen.  When my dad would be at work and my mom would have her days off she would be the one cleaning and my grandma cooking.  I do remember when my friend came to my house he came through the kitchen and saw my dad cook and he was just shocked.  He thought it was really weird to see my dad cook because he thought my mom always cooked.  My response to that was no, my mom rarely cooks the person who does the most cooking is my dad.  When I tell people that my dad does the most cooking they all look at me with a weird look and I understand why.  They are still used to the guy working and the girl staying home and taking care of the house.  That same friend told me my family was weird and that he analyzes us. I thought it was weird yet funny and I asked why we were "weird", he said that in his family the men are the ones that say what goes and they dont let no women tell them what they have to do (very macho type).  In my family he said that the women are the ones that say what goes, I thought it was funny because in some way it is.  In my family even though married the women is more independent and are almost the head of the house when it comes to making some decisions.  This reminded me of the gender role cartoons and how we had to reverse them and do the opposite of the stereotype. 

Sociology in talkshows

All of a sudden I found myself thinking sociologically when I was watching this talk show and the theme was young children and their problems with the parents.  Basically one part was the teens doing whatever they wanted and the other part was teens not doing anything, but hard work.  The one said teens were drinking, not going to school, doing whatever they wanted and the parents needed help controlling them and finding a way to cope with them.  On the other side the parents were really strict on the children and did not let them do anything but hard work.  They were really strict to the children and that was what the show was about taking part of one side and putting it to other for help.

Looking at it in a sociological point according to Mead the relationship between the teens whose parents pushed them to the extreme wont have the ability to form a close and happy bond and because of this it would affect their personality in the future.  Same thing goes with the parents and teens who are not doing anything good.  They both need to find a balance between being a parent and being a friend or between being strict and being lenient.